New neighbor’s unsocial behavior is cause for concern

Dear abby: My wife and I live in a beachfront condo complex with a population of mostly retired people who are friendly and active. Last year, a divorced woman moved in and was welcomed into the community. Although she has been invited to social gatherings, she rarely attends. My wife and I went out of our way to try to make her feel comfortable. We had her to dinner in our home and asked her to join us for several outings. I also volunteered to do chores in her home, always accompanied by my wife.

She confided to us that she has never really had any friends. She seems to enjoy turning people against each other. Should we confront her, distance ourselves from her, and/or warn others about her critical behavior and lying?

Dear Miffed: The answer to your questions is yes. And when you and your wife talk to friends about this toxic woman, be sure to caution them that if they hear anything negative from her about others, to always check with the person she is talking about to determine the truth.

Dear Abby: I have lost a large portion of my vision, and will be trained soon in the use of a white cane. Although I still have some vision left, I often bump into things when I’m in unfamiliar surroundings. I’m sure the cane will be helpful.

There is something I think is important for your readers to know. When they see someone with a white cane, it does not necessarily mean the person is totally blind. I have read of instances where people were using their cane, but perhaps sat down at a bus stop and read a text on their cellphone. These people were accused of being fakes.

I am still able to read a newspaper, but I can no longer drive. I’m unable to see at night, and the loss of my peripheral vision has become dangerous for me. Please let your readers know that a person with a white cane may still be able to see to some degree, but they do need the cane for their own safety.

Dear Safety First: Thank you for your letter. When I searched only for more information about white canes, I learned there are many different kinds. Readers, I know it’s easy to be cynical, but if you see someone with a white cane, please do not accuse the person of faking.