Fiance’s new job inspires dudgeon

Dear Amy: My fiance is a very smart and caring man. He recently started a new job in CBD/marijuana, which is legal in our state.

He works with both medical and recreational product.

He is incredibly excited to have a job that directly helps people. He’s worked with epileptics whose seizures have stopped, and people with chronic anxiety who are able to manage their symptoms better. He gets thank you letters regularly from people whose lives have changed from this herb.

Unfortunately, my parents completely shut him down anytime he tries to talk about his job.

Despite being liberal, they have made it clear they do not see it as legitimate work.

He isn’t even pushing anything on them, just sharing his experience the way anyone in a new job does!

To make matters worse, they asked us not to share with our grandparents what he does for a living. At Christmas this year, they’ll want to hear about his new job, but we’re supposed to lie.

Should we go along with the lie? — Wondering

Dear Wondering: Your husband should not lie. However, if he knows that these various family members of yours believe that he is peddling a drug akin to heroin he will know in advance how they will react.

If they are as set in their opinions as you say, then his evangelism will mean nothing to them. During this transition period where many states are legalizing THC marijuana, there seems to be confusion about CBD products, which do not contain the “drug,” and marijuana products which do.

He gets to make a choice about whether he cares about their opinion of his profession. I suggest that he should enter these family conversations feeling confident and good about what he is doing.