Daughter needs space away from her mother
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 37-year-old woman who has had to move back to my mother’s home after ending a long-term relationship. I love her dearly and appreciate her letting me stay with her until I can get back on my feet. The problem is, I never have any alone time at home or even out when I socialize. She’s close with all my friends and frequently goes to the same bars and restaurants I do. When I go out on weekends, she invariably asks me where I’m going and then shows up and sits with me and my group. I love her, but I really need some space. I’m single. I want to meet people when I’m out, and I can’t do it with her there. When I try to talk to her about it, she gets upset and thinks I don’t “ever” want her around. That’s not true. I just want my own social life without her ALWAYS being there. Please help. -
by Bigar
(March 21-April 19): Resist the urge to convince others to agree with you today. Even though it’s not that important, you might repeatedly return to a particular subject. Possibly, you will attract someone to you who is doing this to you. Tonight: Be patient.
(April 20-May 20): A strong astrological influence might make you pushy with co-workers today. You might insist on introducing reforms and better ways of doing things. It’s far better that you discover the secret of how to get cooperation from others. Tonight: Keep the peace.
(May 21-June 20): Parents must be patient with kids today. Likewise, romantic partners must be patient with each other. In sports, players might be at each other’s throats, especially disputing a call from a referee. This is because people are obsessed with their ideas today.
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(July 23-Aug. 22): You might be obsessed with an idea today. It will preoccupy your mind even if it’s not important. Perhaps you can’t get a song out of your mind, like “Billy, Don’t Be a Hero.” (Oops, sorry about that.) Steer clear of arguments with others. Keep the peace. Tonight: Stay mellow.
(Aug. 23-Sept. 22): When it comes to shopping or financial matters today, you will be obsessed with one idea. Very likely, you want to have your way.
You want to convince others to agree with you, or you want to act on your compulsions about buying something. Tonight: Relax.
(Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Today Mercury is in your sign at odds with big daddy Pluto. This can make you obsessed about an idea, to the point that you want to convince others to agree with you. Instead, you can use this same energy to look inward and examine your deeper values and motives. Tonight: Accept what is.
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(Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Avoid arguments with friends or members of groups, because people are caught up in their ideas today and convinced they’re right. This means it’s hard to reach any kind of agree
NEEDING SPACE IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NEEDING SPACE: It’s time for an adult conversation with Mama. Explain that you enjoy her company but need some time by yourself -- whether it’s at home or with your friends. If you don’t want her beside you all the time when you’re home, agree on a place you can retreat to for some solitude -- like your bedroom. When you’re going out with friends, be clear that you want SOME time with them without her being present because it inhibits you. This does not mean she’s not ever welcome, but maybe HALF the time. Encourage her to spend more time with her own friends. If she doesn’t have any, help her to find some. Your problem may be that your mother is simply lonely and starved for company.
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ment. No one is listening to each other. The joke is that whatever the argument is about is relatively pointless anyway. Tonight: Cooperate.
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