There are, but they’re hard to find
DOM SAYS:
WeLL, first things first: I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely. These are difficult times and lots of people are feeling isolated and longing for company
Covid has killed the dating scene, and I’m sure it’s very difficult for you and others like you. Where on earth can you find a partner right now?
Well, it seems that online would be the only place — and even then, only to chat or perhaps fix up a chilly walk in the park.
But I don’t think that’s the right thing to do. Actually, I think doing that might end up making you feel even more miserable. There seem to be so many pitfalls and so much strange behaviour online.
To be perfectly honest, some men in their 40s and 50s are indeed looking for a quick fling, and they’re the ones most likely to be online. The decent ones you’re after? Pandemic or not, I’m not convinced they’ve taken to online dating en masse.
I can’t i magine my single friends writing profiles and the like; they are much more likely to be at a golf club, or out to lunch in a nice restaurant. No, what I think you should do is work on your search criteria and make plans for meeting the right man for you when the current situation is over.
I’m willing to bet that some single men in their 50s are quite enjoying the enforced solitude of Covid- era l i fe; but many aren’t, and will flock to meet women — in real life — just as soon as they can.
So make sure you’re still on the invite lists. Divorced women often drop off the social circuit when other women stop inviting them to parties. Sometimes this is because the hostess is twitchy about her own husband and the theory that divorce is catching, but I’d say most of the time it’s not deliberate.
Often, in fact, it’s because the person going through the breakup withdraws from the social whirl and then finds the invitations have dried up. So do let people know you’re back out there. When we are allowed to socialise again, you can bet there’ll be parties galore.
I also know someone who met their partner on a cruise, so maybe plan ahead and look forward to something fabulous.
Now, to answer your question. Are men all looking for younger women. Well no, not all. There will, of course, be those who want a younger and energetic partner, but there are plenty of grownups who wouldn’t dream of it.
If I found myself in the heartrending situation of losing my wife, I don’t have the mental or physical agility to hang about with a young woman!
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