Lust with best pal left me in turmoil
REFUSES TO DITCH HER GUY
I’VE fallen friend.
She’s all I think about and want. Being apart is crushing my soul and not being allowed to touch, smell or kiss her is torture.
We speak half a dozen times every day, but things are far from straightforward.
She is still living with her boyfriend and isn’t sure about leaving him for me.
She blows hot and cold from one minute to the next. In one breath she’s declaring her undying love and we’re talking dirty in hushed tones. The next she is insisting we never speak again and I’m to leave her alone.
We’ve been friends for 10 years but only got together in a sexual way back in January. for my best
Comforted
She was angry with her boyfriend for spending their savings on a massive TV. She came to me in tears and I comforted her with vodka and kind words.
One thing led to another and, before I knew it, we were kissing and undressing each other.
The resulting sex was incredible. She lived with another woman back in 2016 at university, so she knew exactly what to do.
She blew my mind with her energy, imagination and skills. I was licked, stroked and stimulated to heaven and back. Then the next day she insisted we could never be close. Two days later, she wanted me again.
Up until the lockdown we were in and out of each other’s beds like horny fleas. Now we’re physically apart but emotionally a mess. She admits that she loves me but doesn’t know if she can leave her bloke.
I’m holed up with my parents and haven’t a clue where I stand.
They tell me to stop moping about and being so self-centred.
JANE SAYS: You are not a robot and I’m sure you could tell your parents that you have personal issues that are confusing you right now.
As for your girlfriend, I worry that you’re expending too much energy on this “arewe-or-aren’t-we?” situation.
Protect your head and your heart by suggesting that you have a clean break – no calls or texts – until you’re able to meet face-to-face for a proper, adult chat.
Explain that you can’t cope with the roller coaster of emotions right now.
With one phone call you’re walking on air, with the next you’re in a pit of despair.
No-one can handle that level of stress, even the best of times.
I fear she may be playing with your mind. She’s the one with the boyfriend, yet she’s being the drama queen.
Could she be getting off on all the attention and excitement, especially if she’s bored? Don’t allow her to use you. You need to focus on your mental wellbeing, your health and your parents.
If you and this woman are meant to be together, then it will happen.
But there’s nothing to be gained from living in sheer misery in the meantime.