“My fiancé and I fell for another woman – and then she married us”
When Natasha Cole fell for another woman just months before her wedding to fiancé Martin, he not only accepted the situation – he fell in love with her too! Now the threesome live together in bliss
Tradition dictates that marriage is about “forsaking all others”. But bisexual Natasha Cole knew that would never work for her, and just months before her wedding day she met and fell in love with another woman, Rebecca. Astonishingly her fiancé Martin felt no jealousy and fell for her too.
And when they tied the knot, they knew they wanted her to be involved – so Rebecca,
26, got ordained as a minister, so she could legally marry them – before joining them on honeymoon!
Dog walker Natasha, who lives in Albany, New York, with both Rebecca, a nurse, and Martin, a doctor, says, “We couldn’t be happier that the woman that we both love ended up conducting our marriage. My husband’s other woman even came on our honeymoon! I know people might think it’s mad, but it really works for us.”
Natasha realised she was bisexual in high school and dated both men and women as she started exploring her sexuality.
By the time she met Martin in 2014 she was in an open relationship – but she didn’t tell him straight away. She says, “I thought it might be a bit too much baggage for him to handle! We met through Tinder and I found him very attractive, he made me laugh and it was very easy. I told him about my open relationship before our second date and he wasn’t fazed by it at all. Though after a few dates I ended my other relationship as I wanted a fresh start.”
CURIOUS
Natasha and Martin, both 29, were monogamous for the first year of their relationship but, after a while, they started discussing opening it up.
She says, “We’d set the foundations of our relationship and knew we were strong enough together to let other people in – we both liked the idea of it. Martin had never been polyamorous [enjoying multiple sexual relationships] before, but he knew I’d made it work in the past and was curious to try it. It has to be based on trust –we decided we’d do everything together and not see other people without each other. We didn’t like the idea of playing away separately and the other not knowing quite what was going on.”
The couple set up a Tinder profile saying they were looking for a third woman – as Martin is straight – to join them for fun and maybe more, and over the next five years they met up with other women a few times a year.
Natasha says, “We’d meet for drinks and dinner and then if the chemistry was right, we’d go back to our place and have sex. We became friends with some of the women, too – it was fun and fulfilling, but we never embarked on a relationship with any of them – the chemistry just wasn’t right.”
Three years after they started dating, in August 2017, Martin and Natasha moved in together, and the following year, while they were on holiday, Martin proposed to Natasha.
She says, “I was absolutely thrilled, I love Martin and we’re compatible on every level. I was really excited about moving on to the next chapter in our lives.”
Then, in March 2020 – three months before their wedding – the couple came across Rebecca’s profile on Tinder and they matched with her. By coincidence she worked at the same hospital as Martin.
EXCITING
Natasha says, “They’d seen each other around but had never really spoken. We invited her over for drinks and dinner. We all felt so comfortable and the sex later that night was incredible. But there was a deeper connection too, one we hadn’t found with any of our
other dates.”
The three of them started seeing each other regularly and gradually they fell in love.
Natasha says, “Rebecca is an amazing woman, she’s beautiful and kind.”
Rebecca gradually started joining them on their country walks and curling up on the sofa to watch films with them – as well as in their bedroom. Swiftly it moved from seeing her a few times a week to almost every night.
Natasha says, “It was unexpected, but exciting.
We’d been looking for fun and friendship and found so much more. I don’t know what would have happened if only one of us fell for her, but luckily it was both of us. She knew we were getting married and as the date got closer, we knew that we wanted her at the ceremony, too.
“Our friends knew about our lifestyle already – but we hadn’t told our families. So a month before the wedding, I introduced her to my mum and stepdad as my girlfriend – adding that she was Martin’s girlfriend, too. They were surprised, but supportive, and Martin’s family was too. Luckily, both of our families are quite liberal in their views, and they could see how happy we all were.”
FUN & LAUGHTER
At their wedding in July they were supposed to be officially married by a friend – but their ordination papers didn’t come through in time. So they had a ceremony, but it wasn’t legal.
Later, Rebecca suggested getting ordained, so that she could be the one to legally marry them, and the couple loved the idea. A month later – once Rebecca was ordained – the three were out drinking in a bar with friends and decided to get hitched there and then. Natasha says, “We decided there was no time like the present. It was full of fun and laughter.”
Rebecca then went with them on their honeymoon to the Caribbean. Natasha says, “There was no way we would have left her behind – we had a great time!”
Now all three of them are settled in their new
WE ALL LIVE TOGETHER SHARING EVERYTHING – INCLUDING A BIG DOUBLE BED
relationship. Natasha says, “We’ve moved into Rebecca’s house where she lived with her Labrador, Cahill, and we brought along our Doberman, Lyla, and Coonhound mix, Lotus. The dogs got on as great together as we did!
“All three of us share a bed. Very occasionally one of us will want space and sleep in the other room, or if Martin’s on call then he’ll go in there. But otherwise we want to be together.”
JEALOUSY
Natasha admits that there can be issues with jealousy for all of them, but explains, “At the beginning one of us might have felt they were getting a bit left out when it came to sex, but we’ve agreed to talk all the time so nothing festers. Generally we all do things together, including sex. If one of us is away working then the other two might indulge, but if one of us is busy cooking, the other two wouldn’t slope off upstairs for a quickie!”
The three of them don’t know what the future holds, but at the moment they’re deeply in love.
Natasha says, “Martin and I obviously have more history, but that doesn’t make our relationship more ‘important’ or mean we are more in love. I like to think we will marry Rebecca, too. Both Rebecca and I want children and I’d probably have them first, just because I’m older.
“Ours might not be the most conventional of marriages but it works for us!”
Rebecca says, “This wasn’t something I was expecting in my life, but I’m so happy with the way things have turned out. I feel just as important to Martin and Natasha, as they are to each other. I’m thrilled to be in such a loving, happy relationship.”
Martin says, “Everyone needs something different from love and it can be hard to try to match your partner’s needs exactly. We’ve been so lucky to find Rebecca and are so happy to be able to love her too.”