Learn to sort out your differences

“I MET my hubby 25 years ago. He gave me and a friend of mine a lift. He was sort of seeing her, but it wasn’t serious. The whole ride he kept looking in the rearview mirror at me. I didn’t want to get in their way, so I pretended not to notice.

Months later, I wanted to find a good guy who had a car. A good male friend said he knew just the right person.

Can you imagine my surprise when it turned out to be the guy who was looking at me in the rear-view mirror.

I refused to see him because I thought he was still seeing my friend, but it turned out he was single.

We started out as friends. Calling, talking, writing letters and after two years we got married. I was just 16 when I met him. Our song was She’s just 16 years old by Benny Mardones.

It was appropriate because I was so young and my family were not too happy about us. You see, we came from different religions, but it all worked out and after 23 years of being married and 25 years of knowing him, I can safely say I made the best choice.

My advice is to remain friends. Your partner should be your best friend. Talk, no matter how silly something seems, let your partner know.

Be honest and open. I think many marriages fail because there is no communication.

Have time alone. Have date nights, even if it’s just a few minutes before bed, use the time to make your partner feel special.

And finally, the most important thing, never go to bed angry with each other. Sort out a problem. Life is short, you never know if your partner is going to wake up the next day.” – Roanna Jamwanth