In love with an UNBELIEVER

He is everything I want in a man ...

Dear Joan,

I am now dating someone who I truly admire. He is everything I want in a man. The only thing is that he is not a Christian. In my church, they say we should not be unequally yoked – meaning I should marry someone who shares my faith.

The trouble is I have not seen anyone that I am attracted to in my church. I didn’t exactly go seeking this relationship, it just happened. It was one of those moments when you meet someone with whom you ‘just click’. I truly love him and I believe he loves me too. He asked me to marry him and I asked him if he thinks at some point in the future he will ever give his life to Christ. He said maybe.

Should I go ahead and snatch my moment of happiness or wait for someone else to come along? Everything in me is telling me that he is the one. Dear JH, I have to be really careful how I answer you. It is not for me to tell you to go ahead and marry him, or not. I know that before I tied the knot with my husband – and he is a Christian – I still prayed a lot about it until I got confirmation in a way that I couldn’t miss that he was the one for me.

I would suggest you not rush into anything. The Holy Spirit is a great teacher and friend, He will guide you into all truths – if he is the one for you. Continually seeking God and His will for your life will reveal that to you.

I can tell you, though, that most times when Christians marry unbelievers, conflicts generally arise – if the other partner does not understand or respect the other’s faith, then even the very act of going to church could be a problem. What if your partner wants to do stuff such as smoke, go to parties, which makes you uncomfortable ... how will you handle that?

At the end of the day, you are the only one who can decide what your next step will be.

Blessings.